Tuesday, February 9, 2016

A question for my readers

I was hit by a cold last week. Bah! So I have spend the whole weekend and yesterday in bed, watching The Fosters (really good show!) and planning my leisure time, haha!

My husband and I are in fact very bad at socializing. With each other :'D
So we have been trying to come up with some ideas for activities to do.
I know that many of you are in a relationship, and I am actually very curious, what do you do when you spend time with each other?
Mattias and I like to be with each other, but the problem is that we are very different. We don't like the same genre of movies, tv-shows or even games mostly! So it's important for us to find something we enjoy doing together, or else we just sit in front of our computers doing different things, haha! And that can be cozy too but not every day all the time.
So please share if any of you have this dilemma to and also if you don't. :)


These are some things we will try this year and se if it's something we both could continue doing:
- Try a climbing-lesson
- Start bowling more
- Try a salsa lesson
- Take more walks together






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  1. My partner and I do not like all the same things, for instance he always likes to rewatch his old favourite shows and is not interested in a lot of mine. We do like to watch food shows together, as long as they are entertaining, even if I would not eat much of what is in them! And anytime we find a movie we both want to see we make sure to see it together, often at home so we can relax in front of the tv, cinemas can be noisy and annoying! (Ha, ha, introvert problems!) We have also talked of going to the zoo together although we have not had a convenient time yet. I will be interested to see other people's suggestions!

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    1. Glad to hear that we are not alone in this :P sometimes I feel like we are so boring and that all the other couples in the world are having a blast, haha!

      Yes, we also make sure to watch movies we do like together, like the marvel movies and animated :D
      I hope I get many answers on this matter!

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  2. Vi anstränger oss båda för att hitta filmer, tv-serier och spel vi båda tycker om - det blir mycket googlande :) Senaste serien vi båda älskade är "The Expanse".

    Andra idéer kan vara att laga mat/baka tillsammans, eller att ta er an ett kreativt projekt tillsammans - kanske något i mixed media.

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    1. Ja vi googlar också en hel del, animerat kan vi iaf alltid se tillsammans och även superhjältefilmer.

      Haha, vi har provat att laga mat tillsammans med jag är ett sånt kontrollfreak i köket så det är inte helt lätt ;) Tack för tips i vilket fall!

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  3. Perhaps take a class together? Do you guys like to cook or draw?

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    1. Yeah we are thinking of that, a dancingclass like I mentioned in my entry ^_^

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  4. Our favorite thing to do is do nothing. I'm seriously, on Saturday and Sunday mornings we make it a point to sit on the couch and chat over coffee and breakfast, sometimes right to lunch. The two of us are always doing something -- working, reading, working out, etc. -- that our Saturday and Sunday mornings are our special time. We've learned that doing nothing is the best thing to do together.

    We also like to go places with each other. Museums, historic sites, shopping, the woods, etc. are some of our favorite places. Again, it helps us unplug and really talk ... or smooch. ;)

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    1. I think that is great that you are able to do!
      But we are too restless for that sort of "hanging" I think. We really must have something to do, I'm like this when I'm alone too, can't do nothing it just stresses me out :P

      Museums and historic sites is a very good suggestion! I will look into that :D

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  5. We're gamers in this household. The difference lies in our secondary hobbies-- mine is arts and crafts, his is sports.
    I've had trouble for a while coming up with things to do together that didn't directly clash with the things we as individuals don't like doing. It's too much work, and left us kinda resentful.

    The best we do in our case is compromise-- take as much as you're going to give back. Say there's a sporting event he wants us to go to, but he knows I abhor sports, I'll still go but it comes with a condition-- I get to order any food there I want, and he doesn't get to question the cost lol. Conversely, he hates wasting time just laying down and ruminating life-- something I take pleasure in doing. He gives me that time and his company when I want it, and in return he gets to pick the game we play together, if he wants to game together at all. If he doesn't, then I leave him to his alone time as I can attend to my own other hobbies without interruption during that time lol.
    There's no sour grapes about it either, I feign interest just as he does for me-- in the end we both know we're faking it, but it doesn't seem to matter because it satisfies whatever "it" in a relationship is when two people are different, but at the same time perfect for each other ;)

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    1. Haha that sounds great that you get to choose the food! We compromise a lot too. I dont like diceroleplaying very much, but I do it anyway with him and our friends to get a chance to be with each other. And he is joining my workouts a lot even though he hates it, haha!

      And good that you guys are both gamers as well :D

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  6. Jag förstår känslan. Jag och Goron brukar gå på museum tillsammans, det gillar vi båda två. Era egna förslag är också bra. Sedan är det värt att komma ihåg att alla par har halvsömniga dagar när man sitter på varsitt håll, men det är inget som någon pratar om eller lägger upp på sociala medier.

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    1. Ja det är väldigt sant! Jag känner att jag var i stort behov av just en sån kommentar som du skrev, för ibland känns det som att vi är så fantasilösa i jämförelse med andra. :) Museum ska jag faktiskt kolla upp vad som finns här!

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  7. Hi Lesthi! Well... since we had a baby boy, he became our common link :) We take a walk in the park on weekends, enjoying time with our son and each other. We also watch movies on TV sometimes. We do like doing shopping together. But to tell the truth we have no common hobbies... We used to go to the dance school, yes, this could be pretty good bonding thing.
    every evening we as well have tea together, and can chat a little or watch some programme.
    I am sure you both will find something suitable for both of you, don't give up! :) Anna

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    1. I can understand that, I'm really excited about future kids because I think we will bond even more when that time comes.
      Thank you for your comment! <3

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  8. My boyfriend and I live in some kind of a symbiose, we do everything together, but of course, it's obvious, because we have the exact same interests...^^ Mostly we craft together and help each other with our costumes, or we game together, usually we party with the two of us. We're both totally anti - social, so we don't go out or do group activities. On lazy days, we just watch a movie or anime...

    Ehh...I know it's not helping, sorry^^ I guess if I were you, I'd try to join him in whatever he does, probaly - as you love each other and want to spend quality time together - he'd do the same for you.^^ Taking a class or doing some kind of sports together is also a good idea, and with spring coming up, you can take nice, long walks outside, even at night. ;)

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    1. Oh wow, that sounds like you find your twinsoul!
      Yes we do join each other in our interests :) but since he is a huge gamer and I'm not it can be really hard. I can't pretend to like game after game, and he notices when I'm bored as well.

      I love walks but he hates them, so that's also a part when he has to suffer for my interest, haha! But I will look into more sportrelated activities, we are also very antisocial so it's good for us to just leave the house I think.

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  9. Hope your feeling better now with the cold! Uh, that's a hard one. I'd say; travel. Go some place where you both want to see. To travel really helps me - adventures, the smells, the people, the adrenaline, so it might help you as well :)

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    1. Travelling would be fun! We have huge plans for when we can afford it someday :D

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  10. Prova att göra något renoveringsprojekt hemma, måla om väggar eller fixa någon möbel. Jag och min sambo tog en helg när vi slipade och målade om köksbordet och stolarna. Vi är båda rätt "tummarna-mitt-i-handen-människor", så det blev inget avancerat egentligen, mörkbetsat bord och stolarna i glada färger, men det gemensamma projektet gav oss tid ihop och vi klarade av en utmaning tillsammans, något som stärker vår känsla av team. Eller måla en tavla ihop! Annars är förslagen om museum och utställningar ett jättebra tips!

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